Most Important Emotional Needs of Women

Willard F. Harley, Jr. in his book, ‘Fall in love, Stay in love’, concluded that the most important needs of women were, “Affection, conversation, honesty and openness, financial support, and family commitment—they all seemed to fit into the category of security. A man’s efforts to provide security and fulfill a woman’s trust seemed to make the most Love Bank deposits [which is a track record of all positive ways people affected our emotions that makes us attracted to them, making them special in our lives] for the average woman”.

It is important to state that everyone have their unique emotional needs, and they can be placed in different order of preference. Here, I will be discussing top 5 emotional needs of an average woman (I’m deeply sorry if yours in not identified in this blog). To read 5 top emotional needs of men, you can click here.

When our emotional needs are met, we tend to develop an affinity to those that meet them. This is because we are emotional creatures; we tend to be attracted to people when we sense emotionally that they treat us well, and repel people when we sense emotionally that they hurt us. It is, thus, important that emotional needs are revealed and discussed during the dating period so that there is an initial understanding that prevents friction in the future after marriage. When emotional needs are revealed late, people who were very close tend to feel like strangers to each other, because they did not realize the other part of their spouse. Though emotional needs may change with time, but as long as those emotional needs are met there is high possibility that relationship will continue to wax stronger.

Women are very sensitive to how they are treated. Thoughtful acts that show love and care are very much appreciated. Attention, gifts, hugs, phone calls, chats on social media, compliments, kisses, a bouquet of flowers, hand-holding, cuddling, and other ‘baby girl treatments’ communicates your care, approval, support, and concern for them. Women also love it if their partner enquires about their feelings and aspirations, is supportive of their dreams, is not disrespectful, free from anger and does not make outrageous demands.

The basis of many relationships is the financial security their partner provides them. Women love it when their men are financially capable of providing for their needs. They even brag about the affluence of their men. Though this emotional need is not often discussed, but the need is often felt when children arrive,

If a lady always enjoys your company and always converses with you, then that is a vital sign that she likes you. Women love an enjoyable and long conversation; one with undivided attention, good humor, respectful, everyone contributes equally to the conversation, does not dwell on past mistakes, full of sincere compliments, mutual interests, brings back good memories, pleasurable and charming. For practical tips on how to hold a charming conversation, you can click here.

Women love if their partner is honest with them, and is open to discuss his past, present activities and plans for their future. They want accurate information about their partner’s thoughts, feelings, habits, likes, dislikes, personal history, movements, daily activities, and even the amount of their income. If their partner does not provide honest and open communication, trust is undermined and the feelings of security can eventually be destroyed. They cannot trust the signals that are being sent and feel they have no foundation on which to build a solid relationship.

This need often comes with the arrival of children. Women love their partner if they are actively involved in the financial, moral and educational care of their children. It is expected that their partner spends quality time with the children and them. This ensures the happiness and success of the family.

A woman sees a man that successfully identifies and continuously performs actions to fulfill her emotional needs as irresistible, and may develop romantic love for him.

If there are other emotional needs that you feel are very important and needs to be addressed or there are corrections you would like to point out to me, please drop them in the comment section. I will be grateful to learn from you. Also, if you find this particular blog to be quite interesting and helpful, please refer it to a friend that might need it. Thanks for your time and attention. 

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Lebari-Dick Leteh is the author of 'Truths About Talent' and 'The Good News'.