How to Start a Romantic Relationship

It seems to many people that it is hard, confusing and takes patience to find a good person to start a serious romantic relationship with. The good news is that you can have a happy, healthy and fun relationship! Getting you to accomplish that is the sole aim of this blog.

1.     Make a list of the qualities you desire in a partner.

To easily know the qualities you desire in a partner, you must first know your emotional needs. By emotional needs I mean those cravings that you have that if satisfied makes you happy and fulfilled, and if left unsatisfied makes you unhappy and frustrated. To help you identify those emotional needs, I have written on the emotional needs of men which you can assess by clicking here, and emotional needs of women which you can also assess by clicking here. Your emotional needs are the direct indicators of the qualities you desire in a partner. When our emotional needs are met, we always develop love for those that meet them.

2.     Go out to discover your potential partner.

You might discover your potential partner by going to places to do what you enjoying doing. A great way to starting a relationship is finding someone who shares common interests with you, and they are easily found in the places you spend your leisure and do your hobbies.

You can also explore social media and dating sites. Though there are many people who create false impressions of themselves on these platforms, but you might be lucky to find genuine persons there.  

1.     Learn about each other.

Once you find someone that you are interested in, it is right that you ask genuine questions about them, and listen to them without interruption as they unfold their stories about themselves. The more you learn about the person, the more you get comfortable with the person and the deeper your relationship can grow. And when they ask about you, open to them genuinely. Don’t fall into the temptation of impressing the other person by bragging nonstop about your influence, wealth, places you’ve been to, etc.  without giving the other person a chance to talk. To get practical tips on how to hold a charming conversation click here

People have their ways of discerning when someone is genuine, and if you are truly honest (which they will know) they may trust you and meeting you again will be possible.

2.     Spend time together.

Creating meetings such as dates, going out for walks, etc. helps you to connect with the person you are interested in. But be careful of overdoing it. Excessive meetings, like every day, might create the impression that you are desperate and needy which may look quite unattractive. Seeing few times a week is okay. Also, ensure the times you set for the meetings are convenient for the other person. You can know this by asking the person if those times and place of meetings are convenient for the other person first before setting up the meetings.

1.     Make known your interest in a serious relationship.

After seeing each other for a while, it is necessary you make known your intentions. People like those who know what they want and are decisive. You should also be willing to accept whatever decision the other person makes. 

2.     Discuss boundaries

Once you both agreed to be in a relationship, it is important you both sit down and agree on certain rules to be respected in the relationship. This helps to make the relationship more comfortable by putting each other’s interest into account. 

3.     Keep fulfilling each other’s emotional needs.

There are qualities that you saw in each other that drew you together in the first place. It is important that you discuss those qualities together. Don’t get too familiar with each other that you don’t maintain the spark and attention that you started with in the relationship.

Keep an open line of communication about the relationship. Be clear and honest with each other when there is decreased effort in fulfilling each other’s emotional needs so that you don’t lose your love for each other.

Thanks for your time spent in reading this blog, and I hope you found it to be helpful. If you find this to be interesting, please share with others that you feel will appreciate this. You can also read the following amazing blogs:

•     How to Hold a Charming Conversation click here
•     The Role of Dream in Successful Living click here
•     Benefits of a New Life in Christ Jesus click here
•      The Role of Focus in Successful Living click here
•      How to Discover Your Talent click here
•      How to Achieve Great Feats Through Great Thinking click here
•      How to Study Effectively and Achieve Excellent Grades in School click here
•     The Role of Character in Successful Living click here
•      The Beauty in Work click here
•      The Role of Values in Successful Living click here
•     Most Important Emotional Needs of Women click here
•      Discovering and Understanding the Emotional Needs of Men click here
•       The Power of Self-talk click here

Lebari-Dick Leteh is the author of 'Truths About Talent' and 'The Good News'.